Recovery During the Holidays
The Holiday Season Can Present Problems for Recovering Alcoholics
I used to really look forward to the holiday season. It was a time when drinking was accepted and expected. Lavish well stocked bars office parties and abounding eggnog become the welcome norm....
"Merry Christmas... what can I get you to drink?" and "Let's celebrate" were the festive greetings that I looked forward to in anticipation as I endeavoured to blend in with these other less experienced drinkers.
I would seem sober compared to their low-tolerenced reaction to Christmas libation. I was one of the crowd smiling and nodding to others as I loading up the shopping cart at the L.C.B.O. surrounded by others doing the same thing.
Oh happy times never mind that this was my third time stocking up for the Holidays obliterating a two week supply in two days.
He went on to say "It was great for a drunk I could go out on a moments notice to 'get some ribbon' only to return later much later with a wonderful excuse on how I had just met my old pal Steve who was in town for the season and so we just had to 'catch up'".
He said it was much easier to get away and drink... "I could be absent for long periods without too much interrogation. Normally I had to account for my whereabouts to my skeptical and suspicious family but I could book three or four hours to 'Christmas shop.' Shop for 45 minutes at Shoppers or Grand and Toy and spend the rest my liberty with my cronies at the Pilot. Only to stagger home with glazed eyes and a complicated tale about my shopping exploits."
He says that because of his long history of drinking and lying about it "sneaking and creeping" as he puts it he was always "under observation". but during the holiday season he could buy some time under the guise of normal seasonal activities.
Let your sponsor or friend in recovery know where you will be.
Plan your days. Let your sponsor or friend in recovery know where you will be and have that persons number with you just in case.
What usually happens is that you have a great time because the pressure to stay is off.
With this arrangement negotiated when you arrive at the gathering tell your host or hosts that you can probably only stay for a short time but that you will know more in a while after you make a telephone call.
Then you are not obliged to stay and what usually happens is that you have a great time because the pressure to stay is off. If you are on your own make sure you have your sponsor's or a sober friend's phone number and that you know they will be home so that you can call or even meet with them if you feel the need. That's "Plan B."
Thanks I'd love a drink!
Stay away from Christmas cake rum balls and dubious punches and eggnog.
Stay away from Christmas cake rum balls and dubious punches and eggnog. Just a little of the old taste can start us urging for a more substantial dose.
I may be on holiday but my chemical dependency does not take a holiday.
Remember alcoholism and addiction are not only physical diseases they are also spiritual emotional and mental diseases. Which of course is what we are as people.
My alcoholism is as smart as I am and then just a little bit smarter. My alcoholism wants me to drink therefore it wants me to be in slippery places like wet Christmas or New Year parties. I have to be careful I have to out-smart my disease.
I need to be connected to sober people I need to be doing sober things going to sober places. I can't let the Christmas season be an excuse for a relapse. I may be on holiday but my chemical dependency does not take a holiday... ultimately the only way to say sober over the holidays is the same way I stay sober all year round that is one day at a time.
One Day At A Time
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